Moving to a New Town

Gamer Hell
  • News Category: Gamer Hell
  • By: Maelish
  • 04/25/2013 09:49 am
One of the worst things for anyone is moving to a new town.  It doesn't matter the reason you're going but the results are upsetting to everything in your life.  On top of finding a new job and place to live, you've suddenly got to find a new group to game with.  This opens up a whole range of issues but the most important thing to remember is patience.  The world won't fall off it's axis if you take your time, in fact you're more likely to end up in a group that doesn't fit you if you rush it.

I've had dry periods for months or even more than a year before finding a group after a move.  Once you do find a group, then you need to take the time to decide if its the group you really wanted to game with.  In order to do this you're going to have to ask the group members questions.  If the new group doesn't like your questions and expectations for instance about game style, game systems, how does family affect the regular game... then you are usually in the wrong spot.  Keep in mind the questions should go both ways.  If they ask personal questions of you, within limits, then you should honestly answer them.  Really, it's the only way to get the right hook-up at the gaming table. 

The second thing to remember is that you need to give it time to see if the fit is good, one session may not tell you.  I've played with a group for months thinking that just maybe I came in at a bad time.  Unfortunately you might not have, on occasion you just aren't going to fit in.  There might be a personality conflict that creeps up over time.  Somebody you thought was cool might eventually decide they don't like you.  Thats just life, move on and find a new group.  You'll be happier in the long run rather than putting up with long running disdain from another player.

So there you go, two things to remember:  Patience and questions.  Sitting in the corner like a lump isn't a proactive way to find a good group, be proactive and you'll find the right place to be.

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